Exfoliate I think you mean... expholiate doesn't work. LOL
Fluff just told me what has happened. If someone threatens legal action as to what you post on a forum - unless it's death threats or something very sinister - they are bluffing. There is NO legal action unless it is harassment. And from what has been transcribed I doubt seriously that it has happened.
However, a phone call from someone you have not willingly given your number too... if there are any more & they are threats... that is harassment. I am wondering whether the number would have come from information you have supplied to the club? Because that would be a misuse of private information by the club if so.
Defamation is different. It's a hell of a lot harder to prove though. Not only do thay have to prove you are telling lies, but that you have damaged their reputation in the community and caused harm & suffering. And asking what the allegations were will not land you in hot water, you have every right to know & answer.
As it is, it sounds as though these are empty threats by someone who themselves feels threatened and/or is trying to cover their tracks. I would like to know who they are and have a chat to them. I have a few questions I would like to pose.
I hope that helps.