Hey I grew up Catholic too but retired at age 17 when I was allowed to decide whether to keep attending church or not.I wasn’t going to get involved in this as it is so highly emotional. But here goes.
Firstly, I’m fine with the jersey. As a matter of fact when I first saw it I thought it was a good initiative. But this post is not about the process and the outcome. It’s about those who are sitting out.
The general consensus here is that they are bigots and that is why they won’t play.
But has anyone considered that they are genuinely afraid for their souls? That is that if they are seen to support the rainbow community, they will go to hell for eternity.
Before you dismiss the idea, I was brought up as Catholic. I was educated by nuns and brothers in my early years. It is drummed into you by them that if you die in sin, you will go to hell. And while I still adhere to the basic Catholic tenants, I have outgrown that idea. I don’t even attend church. But if this continues to be drummed into them by their religious leaders, then it is probably still a genuine belief for them.
If these players are committed enough to participate in prayer circles, thank their god publicly and have ‘Jesus’ and crosses written/drawn in their strapping, then why wouldn’t they genuinely believe their souls might be in danger? It’s part of the package.
I’m not defending anyone’s right to bigotry, but this is just from a different perspective.
For clarity, just reiterating that I support this, and any initiative that promotes inclusion.
I chose to go surfing.
Even though I'm quite frustrated that these players can't challenge their own thinking for the good of the team and now basically we're going to get smashed, I do understand the pressure they must feel. They've been instilled with the belief of religion over science. This has always been a conflict but their upbringing and beliefs are who they are, right now.
Can their beliefs change? For some I think yes.
Religion and science can work together if you're willing to except good from both.
My dear departed Dad, Tommy, was an ex-airforce man, extreme homophobe who was highly alarmed by potential gayness because his eldest son combed his hair, his daughter was a tomboy and his younger son grew his hair like a hippie. He ended up with all straight but open-minded offspring.
He was born in 1927, staunchly Catholic and didn't have kids until 40 so we heard his misplaced humour and concepts growing up.
Fast forward to the 2017 Marriage amendment and 89 year old Tommy voted yes.
Got to say I was pretty proud of him.
Not all people change but some do.