RiverEagle said:
Footnote: Not an '' imaginary friend '' at all either mate.
And I understand to a degree why you're not around much already old mate.
(Thanks for the talk and phone number etc.)
A week for me where I went into bat for Manly against far too many death-riders and grim-reapers over the last-gasp win against the Riff.
You cop flak for being positive, or simply trying to get a game of footy in context; when there are so many variables and factors in virtually every game.
A week where a very occasional and negative character continued his absolute disrespect to all people with mental-illnesses ("they are a complete man-made falsehood" to him). In itself that's bad enough. He adds twisted humour and takes clear delight in the natural anger that provokes.
He was reported and swiftly censored superbly (by @ManlyBacker as far as I'm told). Within 3 hours the same person again made a joke about "forgetting to take his meds...haha". After knowingly being censored for similar crap.
I reported it because I do feel strongly about this. Nothing. The post remained and I got no reply.
A week where a long-term aggressive member went from thread-to-thread spraying other people's opinions or dismissing them outright.
The moment someone (and me on 3 occasions now) answers back, disagrees or simply puts him back in his place for a change, there's a consistent sudden deletion and "clean-up" of the exchanges, that seem more about protecting HIM rather than allowing someone a right of reply. (If no-one challenges him, the posts and pattern of behaviour is allowed to continue unabated.)
A week where i simply tried to relate the complications and challenges faced by the store responsible for delivering the Great Community jerseys to all points North and South; relating my experience as best and fairly as I could. And still there had to be someone challenging that (as if there's ANY reason or ulterior motive??) It was exclusively my wish to help others see they were arriving, even if it felt like a trickle; and to try to get some clarity in the sizing (which IS virtually impossible until you just try one on).
So another week where, if you're positive you're too positive and being unrealistic. If you do feel something strongly is wrong, it's hit-and-miss folks with your chances of being heard, if helped. Or you're called a "sook".
But the kicker for me at the end of a hard week personally, on here was this......Countless times I've been told to "not take Forum-life too seriously, live and let live..." we all know and understand that's the way to go as far as you can. (Don't question the integrity of Silvertails though, as I'm sure many are privately aware of too). That's important and serious stuff.
In the middle of all that occurring I'm PM'd by a Mod and asked not to refer to a female friend on the Forums as "hun". (It's un-PC or not a good look allegedly).
As I said I see that as exactly the same as saying "mate" "bud" or "pal" to a man. I call a lot of females in my life "hun" or "darl" and it's insignificant and platonic (and understood to be nothing more than that) as I am with male friends.
I'm tired, as I know many of us are by Friday night. I'm not well either apparently but that's in the "real world". But if "Soapbox" is where we are permitted to have a respectful opinion on the place I need to say, all of that combined in one week, is erratic and inconsistent in the least; and straight-up dysfunctional and unfair by my standards. (And I do know these views are shared by others). I again am not speaking on anyone's behalf but my own.
I love Manly more than a 47 year-old man ever should really; but this is getting me down andmore disillusioned by the day.
Silvertails : A place for ALL Manly fans to be welcomed, heard, respected and treated as equally as possible?
No. It's not even close to that in my opinion right now.
EDIT: The morning after (crook as a dog but NOT from grog) and I want to clarify a touch.
I also "bumped" and encouraged Premium Membership, Holden Cup (as always) too.
Most of my time here has been good and I have made a few real friends already (and thanks to those who know who they are).
I see it like this. Too often people will disagree or challenge an opinion just for the sake of it (and yeah, to me, just to be a smart-ar$e). Passed off as light-hearted or "in good fun". There are countless times where I've seen chances for people to comment, be positive or constructive, or even simply "like" a post (which IS being "positive" in my opinion).
But too many people I speak to privately don't bother, for the combination of reasons in this post.
And don't overall get me wrong. There's not a lot of ppl that feel this disillusioned (just too many for mine) and if we're all adults, once in a while, you do need to get ALL your cards on the table, clear the air, whatever.
And being told to not occasionally call a female friend "hun" (when a multitude of far bigger "sins" go through to the keeper) was a step too far, too.
GO the EAGLES tonight! I WANT the double this season!