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5 stages of Grief - Where are you at ?

Discussion in 'Rugby League Forum' started by Catch_20_2, Sep 13, 2014.

  1. Catch_20_2

    Catch_20_2 Well-Known Member

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    Well, its been a roller coaster ride over the last 6 months. So many highs and lows punctuated by last night's effort. I read posts where people were attacking players integrity, accusing them of all sorts of wrong doing. Suspecting them of tanking, not trying, being soft, infighting, being greedy etc etc. I didn't want to post because I was upset, angry, frustrated as well and didn't think more destructive commentary on last night's game would help.

    I reflected back to the Simpon's episode where Homer eats a poisonous puffer fish and is thinks he is going to die, these are his reactions to the news of his impending doom when discussing his situation with Dr Hibbert.

    Hibbert: You can expect to go through five stages. The first is denial.
    Homer: No way, because I'm not dying!
    Hibbert: Second is anger.
    Homer: Why you little... Da-! Guuuuuh! Yaaaaah!
    Hibbert: After that, comes fear.
    Homer: (paranoid) What's after fear? What's after fear?
    Hibbert: Bargaining.
    Homer: Doc, you've got to get me out of this. I'll make it worth your while.
    Hibbert: And finally, acceptance.
    Homer: Well, we've all got to go sometime.
    Hibbert: Mr. Simpson, your progress astounds me.

    translating this into a Manly fan last night .....

    Hibbert: You can expect to go through five stages. The first is denial.
    Manly Fan : Lucky tries. We'll turn it around, just a slow start. They'll run out of gas like last year and we'll roll over them.
    Hibbert: Second is anger.
    Manly Fan : Bloody NRL, this should be our home game at Brookie. Hayne you're a disgrace you're killing us again and if you're going to use fake tan at least choose a more natural color, you should have retired after last year's grand final. Catch the f%&ing ball Jorge.
    Hibbert: After that, comes fear.
    Manly Fan : Oh god no please don't kick to Jorge again, have mercy !!!!!!
    Hibbert: Bargaining.
    Manly Fan : If we can just get some penalties and field position we can still turn around the score.
    Hibbert: And finally, acceptance and a bit of hope.
    Manly Fan : Well, we've had a good run. Beaten by a better team on the night. Injuries to key players, loss of form, off field dramas have all taken their toll. Hopefully we can get a win next week then who knows.

    We'll start to rebuild over the off season - it's not the end of the world. We'll say goodbye to one or more long term players who I have loved watching and been proud to support over the years. I don't begrudge them wanting to move on and wish them all the best with their new clubs. Their career is only short and they need to do what they think is best for them and their families.

    Hibbert: Manly Fan, your progress astounds me.

    So what were your emotions during the 5 stages of grief last night ?
    Which stage are you at now ?

    P.S. Hats off to @Ryan, I think he reached stage 5 not long after kick off.
     
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    • HappilyManly

      HappilyManly MWTS Premium Member 2017 Tipping Competitor

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      Its just a game we lost.

      We have one more chance and are still in a group of 6 Teams that can win the GF :cool:

      Lose next week and we can relax for the Summer earlier than usual :p

      No pain, no gain - no grief here :sleepy:
       
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      • SeaEagleRock8

        SeaEagleRock8 Sea Eagle Lach Staff Member Premium Member 2017 Tipping Competitor

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        Acceptance. Souths have improved and were fantastic for most of the game, while we have overachieved with a cheap imitation forward pack and almost no depth. We can still win next week (whoops, might be slipping backwards into denial again) :(
         
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        • wedgetail eagle

          wedgetail eagle Well-Known Member Premium Member

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          If it's true some of the players are not trying & still getting picked, then I'm past caring.
           
        • Clint

          Clint . Premium Member 2017 Tipping Competitor

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          Good work. Gotta love a Simpsons analogy..
          Homer, making all Dads/Husbands out there look good for 20+ years.
          I love Homer... :p
           
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          • cliffhanger

            cliffhanger Active Member

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            Acceptance. In saying that I am very happy and proud manly supporter. To come 2nd with our supposed deficiency in the forwards is no mean feat....go manly
             
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            • niccipops

              niccipops un echidna spillo mia bevanda Premium Member 2017 Tipping Competitor

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              Acceptance. It is was it is. It's a forwards game and three of our best are on the sideline.
              The club is used to adversity. Manly will work things out and move in a successful direction.
               
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              • globaleagle

                globaleagle Deux bourbons s'il vous plait Staff Member Premium Member 2017 Tipping Competitor

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                I was at manly beach today - wearing Manly gear.

                A gentleman walked past and said "A day of upset for us!"

                So I am not sure what stage we are at!

                And if it was one of you.....you saw ge+wife+hat!
                 
              • Clint

                Clint . Premium Member 2017 Tipping Competitor

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                Hey. That was me!
                 
              • PONTIAN SEA EAGLE

                PONTIAN SEA EAGLE Well-Known Member

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                What souths & roosters have,we've had since 08.
                 
              • MadMarcus

                MadMarcus Local Lunatic 2017 Tipping Competitor

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                Great post, but one minor correction...
                 
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                • globaleagle

                  globaleagle Deux bourbons s'il vous plait Staff Member Premium Member 2017 Tipping Competitor

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                  Oh I know what you look like! T'wasn't you! :p
                   
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